Okay, guys, I feel like this really needs to be said and if I get stabbed in the face for saying it or forever hated then I guess I’m alright with that because it needs to be said by this point because… It’s starting to get to the level where it’s making other people feel bad and people who don’t deserve to feel bad to feel like they’re terrible people and on top of that it’s… Starting to look like it’s crossing the boundary from RP blog to real life for a lot of people which is… dangerous.
Alright, so, mainly, I’m going to address the biggest problem I see on here and it seems to be the issue of people not rping with other people. If you assume that this post is about you and you alone I am going to call Carly Simon and tell her to hand you a personal note from me.
This is after like six months of observing people and watching the roughly 46 people I follow interact on my dash. That’s 46 people. I have 102 followers and I see this happening with 46 people and I know you guys follow more people than I do.
Tl;dr of this whole post: Just because someone doesn’t jump your posts all the time doesn’t mean that they don’t like you, or just because someone doesn’t send you anons … It doesn’t have anything to do with you as a person. Or if it does, chances are, the general public has no idea about it. Your characters aren’t bad because you don’t get a lot of attention, because sometimes the best characters don’t get any at all and it sucks but it doesn’t… you shouldn’t take that onto yourself like it’s your fault. Because sometimes it’s not.
(but sometimes it can be.)
Alright, so first I’m going to address a really common trend amongst people just not rping with others. You have to bear in mind that for someone who follows as few people as I do, it’s really, really unlikely that I will miss a post. Not everyone follows as few people as me. A lot of people that I know actually follow at least 60+ fantroll blogs.
I don’t because I knew I would miss more stuff than I wanted to, and I will be as honest about myself in this post as I am being honest about what I think is happening here; I am really picky about who I follow because of past experiences. There’s no covering it up when you look at the ratio of my followers to my followings.
You can’t blame people for a lot of these reasons, just like you can’t blame someone for not talking to you in class or anything. Alternatively, sometimes people just want to stay in their cliques and don’t want to venture out often. But that doesn’t mean that they should shoot down any rp attempts.
**THE GREATEST PIECE OF ADVICE I CAN GIVE YOU ON THIS POST IS THIS: ROLEPLAYS WILL NOT ALWAYS COME TO YOU, YOU HAVE TO GO TO THEM.** [ADDED 02/24/13]
That’s a really small section of the issue here, though. The second has to do with characters. And it isn’t because anyone dislikes your character or they’re bad or anything else. It honestly has a lot to do with their personality and the way they talk to others.
This is probably what’s going to get me into trouble.
What I’m saying is this: Your character’s person and how they talk to others will affect if they will get to be very social. If you make a character and don’t think YOU would want to talk to them, chances are, not a lot of other characters will either.
Bielav has blocked multiple characters and not spoken to a lot of them just because they rubbed him the wrong way. It doesn’t mean that myself, as a roleplayer, dislike the other roleplayer or anything else. I’ve actually apologized to people for him doing this.
As for fantroll-blog specific things:
The fact is, what I’m saying is that it’s time people get objective about this stuff. People get neglected in terms of roleplay a lot, and it’s not new. Sometimes you try and you fail and you have to try again. Sometimes it works right off the bat for some people. Sometimes it doesn’t. I’ve seen a lot of inactive character blogs I would have loved to roleplay with that because no one roleplayed with them they quit altogether.
It’s really hard to get a lot of attention on a site as big as this one, but don’t give up or feel bad or think that someone doesn’t want to to roleplay with you because of it. Don’t think your characters are bad or anything else.
But, you have to bear in mind that if you don’t branch out… No one else will, either. I recently discovered there’s a whole section of fantroll blogs I have never, ever seen, just because I don’t leave my usual groups very often. And you can call me out on that. I know I tend to roleplay exclusively, but so do a lot of other people on here. It’s not bad that you have people you’re comfortable with roleplaying with or that your characters are friends wtih. In real life, we talk to our best friends more than our acquaintances. It doesn’t become a problem until someone says something like they won’t rp outside of their clique or they shoot people down.
That’s… really all I have to say, I think. And if I hurt anyone’s feelings I’m sorry, but after a while it gets tiring to feel like you’re being chastised for something you can’t really help. And it’s starting to breed a lot of issues among roleplayers on here.